Why they say....

The thought for this blog has been lingering on my mind for quite a long time…

Some guys say that a girl and a guy can never be friends …

I always trivialised the subject but the more and more things happen i start to realise what they mean …

Maybe they are right and i am being naieve sometimes to think that when a girl says she wants to be just friends she means it …Heck even the girls say it but to me i have no reason to think they mean something different … And maybe that is one of the differences between guys and girls i mean when guys say something most of the time they actually mean just that what they are saying but with girl it can be quite the opposite of what they say … Wouldn’t it be easier and clearer if people are being honoust and direct then to play mindgames and such. Some people can really drain you from energy when they want you to figure out what they really mean …

I mean, do i look like a mind reader or something ? I don’t think so, so why make things more complicated Then to be straight to the point so you know where you stand or maybe it is me who thinks too different ...For example you meet a girl you start to talk and just relax and all you know have contact and it is just relaxed, then at one point it comes to that she wants to meet up for a drink or such so you think wel cool why not cause you can get along…So she adds that “just as friends” just to socialise and to get to know eachother so at this point the guy thinks nothing wrong just as friends…So you meet up have a drink, eat whatever but during the conversation she drops some “hints” but in your mind you wave them away like well it must be your imagination or something … Then at the end of the meeting you part in a normal way and think well it is nice to meet someone “normal” finally …So after a while you don’t hear from eachother and think well let’s call

and see how your newfound friend is doing …

Then you feel that it is not like it used to be and the person gets some kind of and attitude like she or he is all that …

I mean really, isn’t that weird to act like your frustrated since that person says something and looking back at it you realise that the person meant something else that’s just plain sad in my vision, and these kinda people wonder why they get played, well go figure ..

If it wasn’t for some girls that i am friends with i would have to agree with the guys but unfortenately most of the times it is the opposite …That’s why at that point you wonder if it really is worth to meet some new “friends” cause it is tiring at times …

I am not going to say that even as friends you can’t grow out to be more then just friends or anything ..

But that’s because you learned to appreciate,trust and understand eachother and grow towards eachother …

It doesn’t necessarely means that when a girl and a guy lay in bed together that something will happen …

Friendship is about trust even when it is between a guy and a girl there should be more then a feeling of just friends …

But sometimes it is hard to be just friends with a girl or a guy if one likes the other more then just a friend …

There is one thing that can really freak me out and that’s when you are friends with a girl she starts to ask all kind of

Questions like …What are you going to do, where are you going to , whom are you meeting up with and all those kinda questions …

That make you think wtf (??) since when did we became a couple?? Seriously that can really freak a guy out if you are just friends and that most of the time is the turning point what makes a guy think hey it is better to take some precautional distance …

Some people act like they own you and all and that is not the way it should be ..So that’s why inspite of what people think i love to be in a relationship if it was only for the simple reason that other girls keep at a distance and you only have to answer to your girlfriend and put all your energy and heart into your relationship instead of all those others who give a lot of negative energy….

Another thing that i find very strange is that when a girls tells me you hardly call me or it has been a long time since you called me…

I don’t know about other people but i hardly call anyone for that matter and if i do it is not that i talk for hours i rather meet in person and have some quality time to go for dinner or such instead of hanging on the phone all the time.. To me true friendship is even when you talk to eachother for months and all and you meet up everything is likei t has always been with and you’re glad to see that person again …I never got that part cause if your friends you must have the other person’s number and if it was that important and all then you could make the first call yourself instead of complaining about that matter …. But since they don’t do that there is no need to say those kinda things cause it is that they are either to cheap to make the call or it isn’t that important to that person themself then…. Friendship is about sincerity and if it isn’t sincere then i don’t want to have it and it is also about meeting halfway or in other words fifty fifty then you know they appreciate you…

I’m not out to offend people but i had to get this of my chest and luckily i have friends that show their appreciation and for those friends i always have time and will always make time no matter how hectic the schedule is…

And for those who don’t i won’t waste too much time on and let it be …As always i salute my true friends. If anyone would ask me advice about this matter i would say keep your real friends close to you and don’t waste to much time on the ones that aren’t cause life is too short to spend too much time on those who will never learn how to appreciate you.